It seems so easy.  Just get into bed and go to sleep.  It seems easy, but it’s so troublesome for the majority of us. Why can’t we find the right formula for sleep, night after night?  This blog is all about finding that formula, from both a scientific and an ordinary sleeper’s point of view.  Double the questions and the equation for MIDLIFE.  There’s too much to do, too little time, so many obligations. And our bodies are undergoing the biggest change since adolescence.

Finding balance in a number of things will be the subject of this blog on getting your best night’s sleep in midlife – tonight and most every night.  A number of ingredients make up the recipe for balance and you’ll see them all examined here, but here are the main keys to balance:


Sounds easy enough doesn’t it, yet each of these areas has something important to contribute to good sleep that isn’t immediately obvious.

SIMPLIFY – Take a deep breath and ponder what routines could be done with less complication in your life; is it mental or physical clutter that has you in a whirlwind of activity, or just doing too much and thinking you have to do all those things to get through your day and then somehow drop into bed and sleep peacefully? Be all about being, not just doing;

BALANCE YOUR HORMONES – A key to midlife wellness and soothing, peaceful sleep is an understanding of how your hormones work and your options for keeping them in balance.  Learn some of that here;

BREATHE – A simple, easy, free way to activate the body’s own, natural calming down system, but it’s important to know how it works, to practice regularly and to  scan for tension to see how your efforts are paying off;

AND BE MINDFUL – Mindfulness is the most well-known and scientifically-researched way of calming both the mind and the body so we slide peacefully into sleep, and go through our day with a lowered level of tension doing our daily work with a greater sense of purpose and mastery;

EAT GENTLY   It might be going too far to say that What You Eat is How You Sleep, but this neglected aspect of sleep needs more focus as we plan for the latter part of our day, and transition from work to home in that Happy Hour without alcohol that helps us move from work to home and begin our descent into sleep;

SLEEP VERY WELL  A series of formulas for making sleep work, involving examining hormones, sleep habits, the light-dark cycle, sleep disorders, the latest research on midlife and many other sleeping well topics.


I ran across this friend and colleague at a workshop, and when she heard what I did for a living, she was eager to talk about her sleep experiences. Since we don’t do videos of clients for confidentiality reasons, it was very kind of her to share what she’s been through. Everything she talks about is pretty typical of someone with longstanding insomnia problems. Does this sound like you? If so, you’d better take some action and call me.


An Epidemic of Overwhelm: What To Do About It

August 12, 2011

In keeping with the new revisions of the Food Pyramid that became The Food Platter, two of the giants in the field of brain science research, Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. David Rock, have come up with a Food Platter for the Mind. We live in the age of massive emotional stress, technology and information […]

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June 30, 2011

Ever wonder if your sleep is having an effect on your relationship? Researchers at the University of Pittsburg explored this question in a study of couples, their interactions and their sleep patterns. Of course, the answer could be either or both, but the study sought something more definitive. When partners are not happy with each […]

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Why Simplify? (and what does that have to do with sleep?)

May 30, 2011

Many of us can’t sleep because there’s simply too much on our minds. Or too much to do. Or too much left undone.  A classic topic for mental ponderings (and not the innocent soporific kind) is the remains of the day and what’s not completed.  Another favorite object of our thought is worry – over […]

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Balance Your Hormones – Balance Your Sleep

May 2, 2011

If it’s truly low estrogen that awakens us during the night from sleep, and not the hot flashes themselves, then what are we to do about that as women who want to get our sleep? The answer to this question is indeed a complex one, and one that bears looking into, one piece at a […]

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Do Hot Flashes Cause Insomnia?

March 31, 2011

It is widely known that insomnia occurs in more than 60% of midlife women. This is not just a few sleepless nights, but a regular pattern of waking up during the night – once or many times – and not being able to get to sleep for longer than 15- 20 minutes. For those affected, […]

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March 16, 2011

Ever think that one more change could put you right up to that edge?  Though subtle, a one hour time difference in your sleep time could just be that “little” thing.  It’s hard to understand how something so seemingly subtle as an hour can make such a big difference in your life for a couple […]

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Why Can’t I Sleep Any More?

March 9, 2011

Next to the first few month’s of being a mother, midlife is known as a time of sleepless nights. There are many possible culprits ranging from hormonal issues to anxiety. Some sleep disorders show up for the first time in midlife. One of the first steps to sleeping better is to pinpoint your sleep issue. […]

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